Valuable Lessons on Relationships


Breakups, divorces and “split ups” with loved ones can be difficult to get over, even though they are common – especially for those new to relationships. It is all part of life and if we were all to experience only one feeling, that would be so limiting for our growth and experience here on earth. We will be cheating ourselves out of the golden opportunity to experience all the dimensions of life.

During times of separation, it will or may feel like the worst possible time. Like your whole world has crumbled. You are directionless; your life is meaningless, lonely and lost.

You may feel like your whole world has burnt to ashes and you have nothing left for you anymore. Let me tell you that that is absolutely wrong. Read it again. That is absolutely wrong. Millions and millions of people have experienced it and have come out stronger, wiser and live much better lives now. You will be like a phoenix rising from the ashes into the sky reclaiming all your glory and happiness after you read this.

For no one can control your mind but yourself. You will improve and you will feel better. Believe that as it is proven scientifically and spiritually. It is a law of life that life seeks to evolve, grow and adapt. No one can stop that. No matter how bad a situation is, it will get better. Understand this law and believe in it. All we need to do is to try our very best to get pass it. To find a better meaning out of it rather than to wallow in self-pity and anger which by the way gets you to absolutely nowhere.

Do your best and leave the rest to God. For god will help those that work in absolutely faith of the truth. Do your very best with a definite purpose that your life must continue and improve. And you will get so much better until the point that your are absolutely renewed. Do this and you will come out wiser, stronger, more matured and with an immense peace of mind.
Be patient for it may be the winter season for you now – Summer is just one season away. Be persistent. Persevere. Just like sowing seeds in an open field. The seeds will not grow overnight but through time, they will flourish and blossom into a harvest so rich.

We all have a purpose. Appreciate what you have learnt, for no matter what it will make you wiser.

Remember, You are still alive. As long as you are alive you are still in the game. As long as you are in the game, you always will have a chance. Take that chance and put it to good use.

The only people who have no troubles at all are dead. Troubles are what shapes and mould us into great people. And life is too fragile to stay angry, to live in hatred or to be confused for too long. You can never predict what will happen next. Would you want to live your life being angry, hateful, irritated and feel betrayed? What would you do today if you knew you were going to live only for the next month? Don’t waste your life. Take charge, take action and rise above life’s challenges.

Realize that we are all individuals and that we are therefore all inherently different. It is without a doubt that there will be conflicts and disagreements. But we cannot force another to believe and accept ours. No matter what they will still have a right to choose their own actions. You have too.

Choose it and use it to be better. Do not stay stuck in one place. Remember the law of life. Live life!

Remember Nelson Mandela who was imprisoned for 27 years. That’s 27 years! And yet he still had the same love if not more for the people. He was still forgiving even for his tormentors. Who are we to complain that life is unfair? We must give ourselves greater meaning to view the world in a much more positive manner that will help to contribute to our growth and happiness. Not a meaning that would kill us and leave us lingering in the past. Choose a life of consistent growth and happiness or a life of sadness, a life stuck forever in the pass where nothing can be changed. The choice is yours, you have the key now – open the door to your new life.

Also remember that if you do really love a person, you must let go. It is wrong to forcefully keep some one with you. They would not be able to grow, and their spirit will eventually die. Life would have no meaning for anyone basically, if they were forced against their will. It is not an easy thing to let go but it is definitely the right thing to do.

Many painful thoughts will come to your mind during the period of healing. Some hurtful, some pleasant, some downright angry thoughts, but whatever is it you are still in control. You will only truly move on once you can stop looking behind and move on into the future. You cannot move forward if you keep looking back. Realize that this is happening for a reason. Do not worry if the reason is not clear to you at this moment. It will come to you sooner or later. The matter of fact is that life will go on no matter what. It will feel like the biggest lost in your life but you will eventually realize that it wasn’t right and there is always other people. I repeat that there are always other people. Rest in the comforting thought that you have tried your very best and now we have to leave it to God.

There is only so much we can do. It will not be easy to handle all the thoughts but we must do our very best to keep focused on the future. Realize that it will get better and that it is now up to you to take yourself there. No one, and I repeat no one deserves to remain hurt. Unfortunately many choose to dwell in self-pity and remain in a lowly state for long periods of time. What good in the world would this do to anyone? It is a total waste of your time; it’s hurtful to yourself and also to your loved ones.
Pick yourself up, get outside and get going for the world awaits your return. This is truly the fastest way to heal. Generate new positive empowering meanings in your mind.

What can I do to make it perfect?

Understand that you are purely responsible for your own feelings. Take charge and get out of it.
Thousands of people have been through it before and have come out wiser, stronger emotionally and happier.
As humans we are shaped and tested by the pain and suffering we go through. And each time we experience suffering and provided that we can create a better meaning out of it, we come out better.

As a great friend of mine told me “We have to know sorrow to know happiness. Since we have recently experienced the former, the latter is due very soon”.

Remember to keep a big picture and to be realistic at times of sorrow. No matter what there is always and I repeat always someone worst of than you. Realize that through out the world there are people suffering of hunger, dying of diseases, paralyzed from accidents, miscarriages are rampant, wars are going on, families are lost, loved ones have pass away.
Hang in there and believe in absolute faith that pure happiness and a piece of mind is on your way.

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