How to Gain Confidence in 5 Simple Steps


How to Gain Confidence in 5 Simple Steps

I know of many people who struggle to see themselves as someone capable of achieving something. I also know of people who think they cannot achieve it before they even begin. But the problem with them is not their physical inability to strive but their inability to believe in themselves. Confidence is not just that stride in your walk or the volume of your voice but confidence is within you – it allows you to believe that you can do whatever you put your mind to.

Many people wonder how some people become confident. Is it their personality? Are they born with it? While some people are fortunate enough to be a natural at something, some people need to realize that all things are achievable as long as they try. Confidence can be gained and earned and you can do that by following these 5 simple steps:

1. Just do it

This line may seem like a cliched tagline but Nike has a point when they chose this as their motto. Sometimes, all you need to do to gain confidence is to start somewhere and just do it. You will never know how far or how well you can do something lest you try and press on. Before you become intimidated with the task, tell yourself you can do it and give it a go! You will never find out if you hid behind your shell and constantly told yourself it is impossible. Don’t limit yourself – you will be surprised!

2. Ask someone for their opinion

If you need to boost your self-confidence in any areas of your life, ask someone you can trust for their opinion. Find someone you know who genuinely wants the best for you and wants you to improve and find out where you stand. From there, learn from their feedback and constantly improve yourself. It is always great and also important to have a support system whom you can rely on – they help keep your focus and perspective in check.

3. Stay consistent & practice

Sometimes the only way for us to get better at something and to be confident about it is to allow ourselves time to grow. Keep doing it and consistently improve at it and I am certain you will see results that you cannot ignore. You will find yourself getting better at it and you will soon realize that confidence can be honed in the process of learning. Don’t give up just because you couldn’t do it the first time but if you are passionate about it, just keep at it until you make it!

4. Understand your fear not flee from it

For whatever it is that you are not confident about, assess the issue before you tackle the problem. Is it the task at hand that intimidates you or are you stopping yourself from experiencing a wonderful opportunity? Find out which one it is and understand what your are afraid of. If failure is your biggest fear, remember that you only fail if you don’t try and if you tried and you didn’t succeed, it is a lesson. Gain your confidence through your lessons and always remind yourself that limits are only set by you. Don’t run at the first sign of danger but face it head on – the results will greatly validate your own worth.

5. Believe in yourself even if no one does

This is something really tricky to master but it is more skillful than it is personality. Remember that sometimes you may not always have the encouragement you wish to receive from the people around you and some people will always try to bring you down but so long as you trust yourself, you have already opened the door to your own path. Be confident that your decisions are the right one and believe that whatever comes your way, you are able to conquer it.

Confidence is something everyone can achieve and it isn’t a personality type or a special gift given to some. If you struggle with believing in your own abilities, stop. Stop doubting yourself and start giving yourself the credit you deserve. Anything can be done if you work hard enough on it and push yourself further. Remember to never limit yourself and watch how far you can go.

Image: by Amandine Marque

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